I’m sure by now, everyone has heard about the 7.0 magnitude earthquake that occured three days ago. It isn’t something that we like to hear, it can be a very negative topic to talk about. However, it seems that the earthquake is a large-scaled physical representation of what happens within all of us every once in a while to help shift our lives into better paths.

Haiti has undergone many disasters, with earthquakes being a norm in the small country. It seemed though that everyone was waiting for a “big” one, since it was overdue. Please read this article to help give you some idea of what the country was like beforehand. With the way that Troutman explains in the article, it appears the earthquake was something to help make disaster planning a bit more imperative. I am sure it isn’t easy to swallow – hundreds of people have been reported dead or missing, and many more injured. My heart goes out to them everyday, and with every inch of me, I wish I could go down and help, too. 

It seems to me that the majority of my friends seek help on love. It’s cliche to some, but it is apparent that it is the avenue most take to become more evolved souls. This isn’t because they end up depending on love or the other person, but rather because they realize it has nothing to do with the other person, and everything to do with you.

As we enter into the new year, plenty of people are thinking about having that “special someone”. Some of you feel lucky, while others feel exasperated and lonely. It seems the holidays can do this to some, and that is a perfectly normal human response. But let’s take that response and use it so you don’t feel so bad anymore, meaning we end up eventually getting what we really want. Ready?

I don’t intend to put any lessons or give insightful messages today. The past week has been weird, only due to several things from my past and present trying to show up again. Thing is, I realized they were coming back for a reason – to teach me something. I’m sure I could be miserable about it, but I while I should have been sleeping (final exam in 6 hours), I was having a moment where I realized that all of my dreams are coming true – I am changing the world even more so now. I feel the shift within every inch of my body. And with that, I felt the need to just type it.

A friend of mine posted this – Click here, and asked how was he qualified to speak against dogfighting. This is one of those lessons that’s hard to grasp, as our society has done so well with evolving themselves to treat animals respectfully. I remember when this happened, I didn’t really digest the news other than with anger. I was upset. BUT I didn’t know the whole story. I simply took the easy route and let it stay at anger, rather than doing soul searching.

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone! I hope everyone enjoys the food, the family, but most importantly, the sense of gratitude and thanks we all have on this special day. I hope today you take the time to thank everything in your life, even those things you wish weren’t there. Trust me… there’s a reason for them, and you’ll appreciate it deeply

I saw this video thanks to a friend of mine yesterday. I need to show it to everyone – it is proof that if you give anyone a chance, may it be a human or an animal, they will show you their kind side. Leopard seals have terrified me for most of my life, so seeing this made me relax and realize there’s always a good side, we just have to wait a while to see it.

Much love,

WaterBaby. xoxo

When I was trying to come up with an idea for my next blog posting, I got requests for relationships. Funny, I mean, we ALL have relationships with everything – our parents, friends, boyfriend/girlfriend, exes, computer, vending machine, professors… That can pretty much mean anything. But of course, I knew it had to be, in a sense, a romantic relationship.I tend to be a magnet for people needing help in romantic relationships, and I notice a variety of romantic issues that can come up. These include:

“He just broke up with me! I don’t know what to do! Help!!”

“She… just cries at the drop of a hat. I don’t know what to say to her anymore.”

“He’s SUCH an a**hole! He cheated on me!”

“She’s such a b*tch, she doesn’t let me do what I want!”

“He hasn’t proposed yet… I don’t think this is going to work out…”

“She keeps pushing for a proposal, and I’m just not ready…”

“He hasn’t called since we slept together… Should I call him again?” (note: after she’s called 5 other times and he still hasn’t answered or returned the call…)

“She wants me to talk to her, and I’m not sure what to say when she does. I need more time.”

“He doesn’t talk to me! Why doesn’t he want to talk to me?”

“She doesn’t let me do what I want!”

This semester has been the  most wonderful semester so far in my college career. I love my courses, I love the people I go to school with, and I have learned to love my school. My school schedule includes some of the toughest classes our school offers, and with the supposedly “terrible” professors, but I have been able to prove it all wrong.

Thing is… I still noticed students around me having a hard time. I frequently hear things such as:

“I shouldn’t have to be so stressed about this class!!!”

“Why is my professor giving me terrible grades? I studied soooo hard for that exam!”

“I need a better grade on my next quiz or else I will BOMB that class!”

…… Yikes. Does this sound like you?

When we are devoted to the development of kindness it becomes a movement of the heart so deep and subtle it is like a movement of the sea close to the ocean floor, all but hidden, yet affecting absolutely everything that happens above. That’s the force of kindness.

– Sharon Salzberg

Sorry for the long time between posts! Before I begin, I want to honor a dear buddy of mine – Polka – who died yesterday at noon. I tried my hardest to medicate her and give her lots of love, but alas, it was her time to go.

I had her for 2.5 years, and she was the sweetest weather loach! She knew when it was time for food, she let me pet her, she even fed off a flake I had in my hand once. Yes, fish do have personalities She also was notorious for sticking by other tankmates if they ever got sick. Well, that paid off because her other loach buddy Toastie was by her side the whole time until I had to get her in the quarantine tank. So please give your blessings to her (give her thanks!) – she made a lot of us smile, including my mom, who wasn’t so fond of “eel-like” fish until I got weather loaches.

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Situation 2: The Angry One

RAWR!

Ah, yes, we’ve encountered these before. I’m talking about the angry guy – the person you have no idea why they’re so angry, but you know they are.

What do you do about it? Let’s see… some would get angry too, and snap back. Others would feel victimized, mope and feel bad (just like the first group but their reaction is different)… it really depends from person to person. Some will get passive aggressive too just to get back at the angry person. Think about a situation where you encountered someone like this, be it a parent, sibling, friend, complete stranger… How did YOU react?

I see this a lot in my circle of friends and family. I often feel bad because the solution is quite simple but it takes a bit to get to that point where you can react in the ideal way at the drop of a hat. I know.. I sometimes still have issues myself, lol!